Due to work schedules and money issues and a few other smaller factors, Anthony and I have been out of circulation lately. No socializing, no fun outings, just dealing with the basics.
This hermit-like existence doesn't come naturally to me, and after a few weeks of it, I start going stir crazy. Traveling only the stretch of road between my job and home day after day gets old. I want to have conversations that don't involve bank accounts or grocery lists. I'm not cut out for a life of pure domesticity.
But this is what we're dealing with right now, so I've been trying to make the best of it--cooking some good meals, catching up on reading, and so forth. Focusing on this stuff while I have fewer outside distractions seems like a good thing.
I keep reading about people who take a digital sabbatical and unplug for a week or even a month. While that seems drastic to me, I realized I could better focus on, and appreciate, the simple pleasures that are in my life right now if I could spend less time online. Check Facebook only a couple of times a day. Ignore my Google Reader for a while. Check email a few times a week instead of a few times a day.
Yeah, so that didn't work so well, because today I found out I had missed an email telling me about a death in the family. So now I feel like a self-absorbed loser. I thought not checking email would keep me from feeling bad about all the announcements of fun events I couldn't attend anyway, and the requests for donations I can't afford to make right now, not to mention all the spam and newsletters I usually delete immediately. But now I feel bad in a different way, and disconnecting doesn't seem like a helpful way to focus, it just seems like a way to isolate myself even further.