Judging from the comments people have left here and/or have made to me in person about Tuesday's post, I'm not the only one who sometimes reaches that point where the things we do for fun end up feeling like chores. And apparently quite a few of us are delusional optimistic about how much time actually exists, especially hobby/recreation/fun time.
Let's talk about this!
There are lots of ways I like to relax, but when I try to cram all of them into a weekend, I can't manage it (duh! see above point re: actual available time) and then feel stressed out. Which basically sabotages the whole relaxing angle, obviously. My current goals are about having more calmness in my life, remember? Freaking out about getting "behind" on pastimes is ABSOLUTELY DUMB.
Knowing all this, recently I have:
- vowed not to start any major new sewing or knitting projects like tailored dresses or intricately cabled socks. I'll start only simple, quick-gratification projects, and work on finishing the complicated long-term projects already in progress.
- declined several offers from friends who wanted to loan me books they thought I'd like, because I know I won't get to them right away. (On a similar note, I'm checking out one library book at a time instead of a whole stack.)
- realized I only want to keep up with maybe two TV shows at a time. Following anything more than that means either planning my downtime around TV (no thanks) or getting behind on episodes and trying to squeeze in time to catch up, which ends up feeling like a chore.
- cut back the Netflix plan to one DVD at a time. When we had the two-at-a-time, we'd end up with a backlog and those little red envelopes would start taunting us (again, the pressure/ chore/obligation feeling). Bonus: we save five bucks a month.
How about you? How could you better manage your downtime? Could doing fewer "relaxing" things actually help you feel more relaxed?